Self-Abuse

The most talked about form of abuse is probably physical abuse. Then there’s emotional abuse, mental abuse, verbal abuse. We hear about it on the news, we read about it in the newspapers and magazines. Just recently, the Chris Brown and Rhianna incident was the most searched subject on the internet. And as damaging as physical abuse can be, it does not even compare to the damage that self abuse creates. Mainly because the culprit behind physical abuse, whether the abuser or the abused is some form of self abuse.

When we think/feel that we are unworthy of love, we create loveless relationships. We we think/feel that we are not enough, we create unfulfilling relationships. We we think and say negative things about ourselves, we create partners that call us by every name except our birth name. When we beat ourselves up for not figuring it out, we create partners who are willing to take it a few steps farther and literally ‘beat us up’. So, now can you see where abuse really begins? It really begins with us.

In order to ’stop the violence’, begin within. Love yourself enough to to do the hard work. Take an intimate look at how you treat yourself. And if you find that you are abusing you……STOP! I know, I know, it’s much easier said than done. Especially when you have years of practice. I am still on this journey of self discovery. There are times when I still find myself abusing me and allowing others to abuse me as well. However, I am willing to look at it and do something about it. Everytime I say no to the abuse and or the abuser, I say yes to me.

In love,

J-licious