Sensuality 101

How do you define the word ’sensuality’? How do you define the word ’sexuality’? Many people, men and women confuse those two words thinking they are synonymous. Let’s take a look at how each word is defined (courtesy of dictionary.com) :

Sensuality
1. sensual nature: the sensuality of Keats’s poetry.
2. unrestrained indulgence in sensual pleasures.
3. lewdness; unchaste.
or
The quality or state of being sensual or lascivious.
Excessive devotion to sensual pleasure.

And

Sexuality
1. sexual character; possession of the structural and functional traits of sex.
2. recognition of or emphasis upon sexual matters.
3. involvement in sexual activity.
4. an organism’s preparedness for engaging in sexual activity.
or
The condition of being characterized and distinguished by sex.
Concern with or interest in sexual activity.
Sexual character or potency.

As you can see these two words, although similar in nature, are quite different.

As the title of my blog was being formed in my mind, I struggled with it. I thought if I named it ‘-licious’ people would get the wrong idea. They would think it was about sex and that is so not what my blog is all about. Then it came to me. That’s the very reason, I am writing. To explain to women (men too) that there is a -liciousness within us that has absolutely nothing to do with sex. It has everything to do with our attitude, our confidence, our minds, and even our mindset. Our -liciousness has nothing to do with WHAT we see in the mirror, but how we FEEL about what we see. Do we love ourselves enough to show our sensual sides? Are we confident enough in our own skins to walk the streets with our heels clacking, our hips swaying and our heads held high?

To be sensual means to be consciously aware of your surroundings. It’s being encapsulated in the deliciousness of what you smell, touch, hear, taste and see. In the right state of mind, you can make anything in life a sensual experience: eating chocolate or enjoying a sumptuous meal, meditating or focusing on your breath, walking the beach and feeling the breeze on your face and the sand beneath your feet, watching a sunset, dancing and feeling your body move through space, smelling flowers in a garden, looking into the face of a loved one, painting or working with clay or working in your career. Oh yeah, even when making love.

Think about it? Outside of the bedroom, just how sensual are you? Do you save the soft sheets for company? Your favorite outfit for a special occasion? Do you buy flowers only for special events? Light candles and put on sexy panties and perfume when it’s time to make love? Are you only sensual when other people are watching? If you answered yes to any of these questions, ask yourself….WHY. Why wait?

Make a commitment to yourself to notice the sensuality of the world around you. Take some time each day and vow to experience your world from a sensual perspective. Take a walk and notice the sounds, sights, smells, textures and tastes around you. Do the housework in your pretty panties or none at all. Listen to music that moves you from the inside out. Make dinner a sensual feast. From the laundry room to the bedroom and everywhere in between, explore the sensual you and learn how to use your unique sensibilities to create an extraordinary atmosphere in which to live, love and of course, make love. Stop looking at your sensuality as a sexual perk and start enjoying it 24/7. Because when you feel like a sensual woman you behave like one. And that confidence is the true secret to driving your partner wild in bed.

Sensuality comes from the inside and exudes without you even being aware of it. And it is nothing to be ashamed of. It is what you do with it that makes the difference, but to enhance it is not a bad or taboo thing.

Men, don’t you agree?

In love,

J-licious